Monday, February 25, 2013

Happy Birthday Grams!


Today would have been my grandma’s 95th earthly birthday.  I guess I say earthly because who knows how old are souls are right? She’s on that plane and we’re here so I have to count here, it’s all I’ve got to go on, I’m no Shirley McClaine!

I can’t believe it’s been 5 yrs since we had her big 90th blow out. It was tons of fun. We had no idea at the time that she only had a few more months with us.  In some ways I’m glad we didn’t know and in others I’m kind of miffed we didn’t.  I wish I had known, wish I spent those remaining months in a more meaningful way with her. 

People tell you make the time you spend with loved ones count.  And you always say right, right. I do I do. I do that.  I don’t take anyone or any time for granted. But do you?  Think about it. Think about those long days at work……..those long weeks when you work overtime….think about the birthday parties you miss, the friends you put off, the invitation you RSVP no too, the calls you screen. 

I didn’t get to spend my grandma’s last days with her.  It wasn’t my choice, it was made for me.  By selfish, jealous people.  Even though it’s been almost 5 yrs it still hurts.  I still apologize to my grandma for not being there. Oh I know she knows now, she’s not angry, she’s forgiven everyone, she’s seen everyone’s heart, everyone’s earthly foibles.  To her it all doesn’t matter, it’s all good. But to me it still does. 

Some day I’ll be able to let it go, but I’m not there yet.  Getting closer but not quite.  I cried myself to sleep last night and today I’ve been asking her to show up in my dreams and talk to me! That would be a great birthday gift……….well to me maybe! But I’ll take it!!!

Happy Earth Birthday Grams!

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